Being in a romantic relationship is more than just about liking each other look, frequently the word love is constantly thrown around to try and describe a healthy relationship. However, it is a bit more complicated than that. Building up a strong romantic relationship takes a lot of time, effort and compromises and in this article; we are going to be discussing just that.
You Cannot Just Have It Your Way All the Time.
So, what does a romantic relationship mean? Commonly, the concept of a romantic relationship is skewed thanks to pop culture classics from music and movies where it is presented as simply having fun, but a successful relationship is about more than just going out and having fun.
Things will happen throughout your relationship on which you and your partner do not agree, and this is actually understandable considering that both of you have come from different backgrounds, families and maybe even cultures.
The best way to deal with this is to reach a reasonable compromise for both of you, such as if your boyfriend, for example, does not enjoy washing the dishes then you can wash them, but instead he then has to cut the grass in your garden.
Although it is important to realize that you cannot just have it your way all the time, you also need to be aware of what is happening in your relationship and make sure that you are not being abused and exploited.
If you are the person in the relationship that is doing all the compromising, it will be good to step back for a minute and think about what is happening and reconsider your relationship.
Do You Trust Each Other?
Trust is one of the main ingredients in an ideal romantic relationship, without trust a relationship just would not work. Everyone needs to go out and be away for many reasons such as work, to go to university or to go shopping. You cannot know everywhere your partner is going and what they are doing, and you do not have to.
Of course, it is important to note that trust takes time to build-up, but it can be broken very quickly. Therefore, if you have no reason not to trust your partner, then you should have no trust issues related to them as your worries unfounded. However, if you discover that they have been lying to you even for the smallest things, it should act as a red flag and start to make you consider whether this relationship is right for you.
As people who lie about the little things are likely to start lying about more serious as they get a lot more comfortable with getting away with it around it.
Moreover, it is not healthy to be always worrying about what your other half is up to, and it is not your job to guarantee that they are being faithful to you because after all, you are not their parent or teacher.
Having trust is not just something that it is important on your side but also on your partner’s side, if you have never done anything to warrant trust issues from your partner and have spent countless hours trying to give them confidence that there are no actually such problems.
It will be good to consider whether this relationship is actually worth it, as it is not good for your mental health to be always under the magnifying glass. A relationship is not supposed to be a prison, but it is supposed to be an adventure that you enjoy with yourself and your partner.
Making Each Other Feel Good.
A critical job of a good romantic relationship is to act as a support unit for both of the people involved; we addressed this part in the first section. However, it is not just about making compromises, but also about boosting each other’s self-esteem instead of bringing it down. Ask yourself, does your partner frequently tell you that you are beautiful? If they do, that is a great thing, as long as they do not just say it when you are upset at them for whatever reason.
Another thing that you need to consider is whether they ask about how your day went or important events that have been on your mind for a long time. This will show that they actually care about you and what is important to you, and are not just in this relationship for the wrong reasons.
What’s more, is that they should be working to get along with your family, as your boyfriend and girlfriend are a fairly new part to your life and should be the ones trying to adapt to yours and the other people that you have a relationship and not forcing your friends and family to adapt to theirs. In this case, you can get a good marriage.
Does Your Partner Actually Love You?
A romantic relationship requires two people to work, you may put all your love and effort into your relationship, but it may not work out, and sometimes the fault may not lie with you. As we stated above a relationship is more about affection and going out together every weekend, if your partner actually likes you, then they will care about your health and well-being.
One action that shows whether your partner actually likes you is whether they provide you with help when you need it; a relationship is about working together as a team. This help does not have to mean that your partner directly gets involved and starts helping you at work or with your studies if you are feeling the pressure.
However, it will be good if they can take up some of the house chores to help free up time for you so you can focus on what is currently important to advancing your career.
Furthermore, you need to look out for the type of actions that your partner takes and whether they show that they actually about your feelings. For example, if your partner has cheated on you, lied to you or tries to bring down your confidence, then it is likely that they do not actually like you that much.
In a relationship, you need to be strong enough to walk away if things are just not working out, otherwise, you are stuck in a long-term situation where you are not happy.
Additionally, it is important to realize that just because your relationship has not worked out or your partner is not treating you well that this is actually not your fault. They may not actually like you, or they may be simply immature and just not ready to be in a serious relationship.